A-Z lodger survival guide: C is for Confidence

I (think I) know what you’re all thinking. You can’t have C without Crazy Yank. Right? Wrong. Such is Crazy Yank’s all encompassing character that he can’t be restrained to a single alphabetical entry. His omnipotence and omniscience means that he’s always here. On this blog. Not that he’s God or a ghost that’s haunting me (I hope not, anyway.) But he could be Big Brother. (I jest or once again, I hope I’m joking.)

No, instead, I’m going to talk about confidence. In terms of having confidence and being told things in confidence. To be honest, it’s more about the latter. And because of that, I could simply say no more because that would prove my lesson here that what a lodger is told must be always kept in confidence as, and when, it requires such discretion. As much as I found myself being consulted as rarely, or in fact as equally, as Demon Cat (sorry, Demon Cat but it’s true) about a lot of household choices, something I still feel most honoured, and also a little amused, about is that on more than one occasion, I was in the fortunate position of being a confidant for Crazy Yank, Wonder Boy and Slish. Sometimes this would happen simultaneously either about the same subject or something completely unrelated. What I found truly fascinating about this is that this often meant that, in terms of knowledge and what makes each individual tick, I was able to understand each person and the particular situations from a number of different angles and with a far greater understanding than any of the others did. I felt lucky being in such a position if not a little overloaded from time to time.

And having confidence? Well, when you’re lodging, confidence is of course important for integrating and building a rapport with the rest of the family to the best of your ability. It’s having the confidence to realise that you still have a life and that you’re not living with your friends because of bad timing, different budgets and contrasting preferences in terms of location. And finally, it’s quite frankly having the confidence to resist rising to the tiresome bait and/or forcing out a laugh when your twenty-something friends insinuate that you have a boyfriend nearly the same age as your father and have adopted two children (and not forgetting a demonic cat) for the umpteenth time.

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2 responses to “A-Z lodger survival guide: C is for Confidence

  1. hello london lodger- thanks for adding me on your blogroll! I like the sound of this crazy yank man (that should in no way be read as ‘I’m attracted to crazy yank man’ he sounds entertaining), we have one that lives upstairs and plays break up music (Dido, Coldplay, Cheryl Crow- the first cut is the deepest etc) to us through the floor- always brightens up a saturday evening in……

  2. thelondonlodger

    No worries – thanks for adding me back to your blog roll and for commenting.

    HA – glad you are feeling fond (yes, not attracted to) Crazy Yank. Your equivalent sounds endearing. I feel sad for him listening to such depressing tunes on a Saturday night. Has he gone through a break-up recently? Perhaps you and he could discuss further tracks for his break-up playlist?

    Thanks, again.

    Kind regards,

    The London Lodger

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